As the year comes to a close I have been reflecting on what the year has been filled with and what I hope to come in 2019. In this last year I was able to take 2 vacations, get a promotion at work, build stronger friendships, along with having a new cousin be born. These are some of the wonderful memories I have about the year however when I look back I feel tired as 2018 was hard. I experienced many changes and trials, cried more tears then I have ever before, dealt with insecurities and jealousy like never before, gained weight back which took a took on my self-esteem, felt pressure from many people regarding finding a man, and those are just to name a few things that I experienced in 2018 that were challenging.
The thing is, as I talked to others especially those my age it seemed like this was a very common feeling for 2018. So for anyone reading this, if you experienced a rough year in whatever way just know – you are NOT alone! Personally this last month has been really hard for me especially with regards to relationships and weight. As I turned another year older in November and showed up to Christmas without a boyfriend, again I was meant with questions about why I don’t have a man and what am I doing to get one.. If you are someone who constantly asks friends or family these questions please STOP! Those who are single know it and like me most people probably are sick of those questions because being reminded of the fact that someone is single doesn’t change the fact. For all you know I have been on 20 dates, stood up, and got my heart broken this year. But even if that’s not the case why does someone need a man (or significant other) to be considered happy and whole?! I am someone who is a very strong independent women and I have been told by men that I because of that I am intimidating… the thing is that’s fine with me because I don’t want a scared boy I want a MAN and if that means being single a little while longer that’s fine by me as I know I am worth it, everyone is! For some people they can really relate to being single at the holidays and how hard it is, others might not and that’s fine. Maybe you struggled like be with being increasingly busy at work causing your motivation and energy level to drop drastically resulting in not working out as much. Add that to all the free meals and treats that seem to come about this time of year. It’s no surprised that I have been gaining weight, and maybe you have too. You know what? It’s okay! As much as it might not feel like it I am starting to feel and believe the fact that it is and the reason is because we are human and we are living and life is messy and weight loss and health are a journey that we will be on for our entire lives.
Thankfully 2018 is almost over and it is my hope for myself and others that 2019 will be a year to recover and thrive. I want to point out, you don’t need to wait until the beginning of a new year to make changes in your life, however since that’s where were at right now it doesn’t hurt. Just know that if you want 2019 to be different you are going to have to put in some effort. In 2019 I plan to focus on my health, my friendships, and to learn to truly love myself; for that to happen I need to have things set up in a way that will allow me to be successful. For me, that involves coming up with a workout plan that I can stick with, meal planning and prepping more, using MyFitnessPal to keep count of my calories and weightless, using motivational quotes on my mirror to help build up my self-esteem, surround myself with people who lift me up, and have an encouragement buddy who won’t shame me if I don’t hit goals but reminds me that I can do anything I set my mind to. These are things that I am already setting up so that I can start off 2019 strong. If you haven’t started thinking about how 2019 will be different then 2019 you still can, it’s never too late. Here are a few motivational quotes that I personally like and will have near me as I take on 2019.